“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ~Lewis B. Smedes When it came to my ex-girlfriend, I had difficulty letting go. She was a girl I’d had a big crush on for a couple of years. Funnily enough, once my crush on her began to fade, she suddenly
“Your brain can play tricks, your heart can be blind, but your gut is always right.” ~Rachel Wolchin Have you ever wondered why it can feel so incredibly difficult to make a decision? The pros and cons lists, the endless stream of thoughts talking us into it and then against it, the anxiety about potential
“Self-love, self-respect, self-worth: There’s a reason they all start with ‘self.’ You can’t find them in anyone else.” ~Unknown After my divorce, I felt like I was the most terrible person in the world. I had zero self-worth, zero confidence, and zero belief in myself If you’re going through a breakup or divorce now, your
Have you ever felt like you’ve rehashed your issues over and over, but you’re still far from healing? Maybe you’ve done talk therapy for years, and it’s helped to some degree, but it feels like you’ve been missing something you need to finally start feeling happy, free, and alive. If this sounds familiar, I highly
“You don’t have to be brave all of the time. You are not damaged or defeated. Have patience. Give yourself permission to grieve, to cry, and to heal. Allow a bit of compassion, you’re doing the best you can. We all are.” ~Unknown Growing up, I received the message that everything had to look a certain
Brett’s name flits onto my screen with an incoming email. “Call you right back,” I say, hanging up on a friend. Last time I talked to Brett, the Obama family lived in the White House. Last time I thought of him? Last year, as Melania took her third crack at presidential Christmas décor, and I
“We cannot grow when we are in shame, and we can’t use shame to change ourselves or others.” ~Brené Brown “I don’t deserve to be happy.” “I’ll never be good enough.” “I’m not worthy of love.” Sound familiar? I hear phrases like this all the time in my work helping women walk through divorce. I
“Lose your mind so that you can gain a new way of knowing.” ~Holly Lynn Payne You know those moments when your thoughts seem to be going off in all directions? No logic, no control. All fighting for your attention like a class full of overexcited school children, one shouting even louder than the other
Every now and then you just need to shut off—shut your phone off, shut your brain off, and give yourself a little space to simply be. We all do, especially now. Let’s face it, it’s been a crazy year, with the pandemic, economic upheaval, and social justice conflicts, not to mention the upcoming election. It’s
“Gaslighting by parents can extend way into adulthood, but it may have particularly harmed you during your childhood. Children need to learn to trust themselves, and when they’re taught that what they see, hear, or feel isn’t real, that can lead to a lifetime of self-doubt.” ~Suzannah Weiss Some of us grew up in families
“Don’t waste your time looking back on what you’ve lost. Move on, for life is not meant to be traveled backwards.” ~Unknown When I was thirty-eight, I was diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer. During my treatment, one thought persisted: “I can’t wait until this is over and life goes back to normal.” I clung
“Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.” ~Andy Rooney Three months ago, I was blessed with an awesome opportunity—a free weekend break to Snowdonia, Wales. Having experienced chronic health conditions for the past six years of my life, I had been hibernating. My days were
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” ~Maya Angelou I have always been a “fixer.” I liked to fix people’s problems. Someone feeling down and out? Let me fix it by trying to take away their pain. Someone on the wrong
“Use only that which works and take it from any place you can find it.” ~Bruce Lee Ding. The meditation timer chimes, and through a small miracle of willpower you managed to sit through an excruciating ten-minute meditation session. What you should feel is a sense of accomplishment. After all, you often skip it altogether.
“Disneyland is the star, everything else is the supporting role.” ~Walt Disney “Just having a quick shower, I’ll text you before I leave x” I’d received that text only ten minutes ago, so what the hell was wrong with me? There I was standing in my kitchen like a mad woman, having a panic attack.