“Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.” ~Albert Einstein Why do you want to do it? It was a question I was asked repeatedly by friends before I started my volunteering placement in a spinal injuries unit, the uncertainty in their eyes reflecting back their own fears around life-altering disability. It was difficult
“A good head and good heart are always a formidable combination. But when you add to that a literate tongue or pen, then you have something very special.” ~Nelson Mandela Ever thought, “Life is so unfair!” Is it, really? Has life given you circumstances that keep you in a deep, dark hole of disadvantages that
“Sweet is the memory of distant friends. Like the mellow rays of the departing sun, it falls tenderly, yet sadly, on the heart.” ~Washington Irving Why is it that the older we seem to get the more and more we miss friendships from days long past? You know the ones… The friendships where you felt
“Always concentrate on how far you’ve come, rather than how far you have left to go.” ~Unknown I sat on the beach, watching the sandpipers skittering back and forth, pecking at the water’s edge. A dead horseshoe crab washed back and forth in the surf. Finished at fifty-five, I thought. I’m as useless as that poor crab.
“You cannot create a conscious relationship with someone who isn’t committed to doing their work. But you can create a better relationship with yourself, and sometimes that looks like releasing yourself from the idea that you can change another person or convince them to grow. Choose yourself.” ~Sheleana Aiyana What are the ingredients that make
“To be content doesn’t mean you don’t desire more, it means you’re thankful for what you have and patient for what’s to come.” ~Tony Gaskins There’s a thought I want to share with you that used to keep me up at night. It’s a toxic idea that caused me stress and burnout and actually got
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ~Lewis B. Smedes When it came to my ex-girlfriend, I had difficulty letting go. She was a girl I’d had a big crush on for a couple of years. Funnily enough, once my crush on her began to fade, she suddenly
“Your brain can play tricks, your heart can be blind, but your gut is always right.” ~Rachel Wolchin Have you ever wondered why it can feel so incredibly difficult to make a decision? The pros and cons lists, the endless stream of thoughts talking us into it and then against it, the anxiety about potential
“Self-love, self-respect, self-worth: There’s a reason they all start with ‘self.’ You can’t find them in anyone else.” ~Unknown After my divorce, I felt like I was the most terrible person in the world. I had zero self-worth, zero confidence, and zero belief in myself If you’re going through a breakup or divorce now, your
Have you ever felt like you’ve rehashed your issues over and over, but you’re still far from healing? Maybe you’ve done talk therapy for years, and it’s helped to some degree, but it feels like you’ve been missing something you need to finally start feeling happy, free, and alive. If this sounds familiar, I highly
“You don’t have to be brave all of the time. You are not damaged or defeated. Have patience. Give yourself permission to grieve, to cry, and to heal. Allow a bit of compassion, you’re doing the best you can. We all are.” ~Unknown Growing up, I received the message that everything had to look a certain
Brett’s name flits onto my screen with an incoming email. “Call you right back,” I say, hanging up on a friend. Last time I talked to Brett, the Obama family lived in the White House. Last time I thought of him? Last year, as Melania took her third crack at presidential Christmas décor, and I
“We cannot grow when we are in shame, and we can’t use shame to change ourselves or others.” ~Brené Brown “I don’t deserve to be happy.” “I’ll never be good enough.” “I’m not worthy of love.” Sound familiar? I hear phrases like this all the time in my work helping women walk through divorce. I
“Lose your mind so that you can gain a new way of knowing.” ~Holly Lynn Payne You know those moments when your thoughts seem to be going off in all directions? No logic, no control. All fighting for your attention like a class full of overexcited school children, one shouting even louder than the other
Every now and then you just need to shut off—shut your phone off, shut your brain off, and give yourself a little space to simply be. We all do, especially now. Let’s face it, it’s been a crazy year, with the pandemic, economic upheaval, and social justice conflicts, not to mention the upcoming election. It’s
“Gaslighting by parents can extend way into adulthood, but it may have particularly harmed you during your childhood. Children need to learn to trust themselves, and when they’re taught that what they see, hear, or feel isn’t real, that can lead to a lifetime of self-doubt.” ~Suzannah Weiss Some of us grew up in families
“Don’t waste your time looking back on what you’ve lost. Move on, for life is not meant to be traveled backwards.” ~Unknown When I was thirty-eight, I was diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer. During my treatment, one thought persisted: “I can’t wait until this is over and life goes back to normal.” I clung
“Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.” ~Andy Rooney Three months ago, I was blessed with an awesome opportunity—a free weekend break to Snowdonia, Wales. Having experienced chronic health conditions for the past six years of my life, I had been hibernating. My days were
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” ~Maya Angelou I have always been a “fixer.” I liked to fix people’s problems. Someone feeling down and out? Let me fix it by trying to take away their pain. Someone on the wrong
“Use only that which works and take it from any place you can find it.” ~Bruce Lee Ding. The meditation timer chimes, and through a small miracle of willpower you managed to sit through an excruciating ten-minute meditation session. What you should feel is a sense of accomplishment. After all, you often skip it altogether.
“Disneyland is the star, everything else is the supporting role.” ~Walt Disney “Just having a quick shower, I’ll text you before I leave x” I’d received that text only ten minutes ago, so what the hell was wrong with me? There I was standing in my kitchen like a mad woman, having a panic attack.